How many times a day do you find yourself checking your Facebook? Checking for likes, comments or news feed updates? Many people love to always be updated on how much attention they are getting. The question is, does this behavior promote narcissism?
What Is Narcissism?
Narcissism is when you have an extreme interest in yourself and lack compassion for others. Do you tend to visit Facebook to interact with other people and to see what they are up to? Do you tend to visit Facebook to boost your self-esteem? How many times do you catch yourself checking your Facebook to see how popular one of your posts was? How many people viewed your profile?
Narcissism can be a dangerous trait to pickup. It can ruin relationships.
The Lies We Tell
Lying or embellishing the truth is all too common on Facebook. Some people even go as far as editing their photos. Most people are even too afraid to post a selfie without a filter. This shows an obvious fear of what others think.
If you think editing photos to clear up skin or whiten teeth sounds crazy, then you haven’t heard about fake vacations. Some people are so worried about what others think about them that they go out of their way to go on a fake vacation. They create fake photos, make fake posts about their trip, and even get family members to go along with the story. This is an extreme example of the type of narcissism that you can find on Facebook, but it is getting more and more popular.
How Can You Tell If You Are At Risk?
For most people, being too self-absorbed is not noticeable. It can almost sneak up on you. So how can you tell if you are becoming narcissistic?
- Monitor Your Usage
Take a day to track how many times you check your Facebook page. Track how much of your time you spend posting and how much of your time you spend interacting with others.
- Review Your Recent Posts
Check to see if any of your recent posts are an exaggeration of the truth. Try to be honest with yourself on whether or not this post was to inform others or if it was seeking their approval.
- Be Aware Of Your Thoughts Throughout The Day
As you go about your day, be aware of what happens and if you feel the urge to post about it on Facebook. Try to notice if you worry about capturing and posting moments rather than just enjoying them.
Should You Deactivate Your Facebook Account?
Worrying about what others think of you can be very tiring. It can stress you out and be devastating on your emotions. If you find that Facebook has made you more worried, seeking others approval, or simply takes up too much of your time, it may be time for a break.
Deactivating your Facebook account can be a hard step to take. You may feel like you will be missing out on a big part of your life and the lives of others. If you are worried about it, then take it slow. Try deleting your Facebook app off of your phone or only check it three times a day. By limiting your use, you can start to see the benefits.
The Benefits of Being Free
Removing yourself from Facebook is not for everyone. But if you have noticed that you are too involved, constantly worried about what others think or seem to be missing out on life, then it might be for you.
You will feel freer, less stressed, more caring, more selfless, you will live in the moment, and most importantly, you will be happy.